In which I ramble about boys and attempt to give empowering advice.
Situation
one:
So you’ve got a crush, he’s 6ft tall, has a
good sense of humour and smells nice, WONDERFUL—except he doesn’t know you
exist—oh no. DO NOT FRET I am here to save your day *really uncomfortable
wink*
If
there’s one thing I’ve learnt in my life it’s to live fast and do everything
you’ve always wanted to. If you want something you need to go for it, you need
to take leaps in your life that allow you to be happy. You really like this boy
right? I mean you are stalking his instagram every two seconds and you are
checking his facebook to see what he recently posted. If you can’t stop
thinking about him and what he might be doing at this very moment THEN JUST
TALK TO HIM GIRL.
Sit in
front of the mirror for a second and ask yourself, what is the worst thing that
can happen here? The only horrible thing I can think of occurring is him not
replying and you know what, if that little snot nose boy doesn’t reply to you
(excuse my French here) fuck him. If he chooses not to reply to a beautiful and
confident young lady like yourself then he’s not worth your time. YOU TAKE YOUR
BEAUTIFUL ASS AWAY FROM HIS INSTAGRAM AND GO FOCUS ON SCHOOL OR SOMETHING (you
really should be focusing on school first lbr).
However
on a positive note if his pretty face does reply then GREAT, you go girl. Look
at you, you’ve started a conversation and now you’re staring at the ‘hey :)” he
sent you like it’s the most beautiful thing in the world—Congrats I’m happy for
you, now ask him how he is or something, don’t be scared just do you and be
confident. This wonderful young man could end up being your husband. Get to
know him and don’t be scared to be yourself, I guarantee that if you’re you
he’ll love it. (((Unless you’re some sort of axe murderer))) And if he doesn’t
like you for you then he ain’t worth it.
You know
your worth and if he can’t appreciate you in your entirety don’t you dare think
of changing yourself to suit him. YOU LIKE WHAT YOU LIKE, so if he likes rap
music and you absolutely hate it don’t pretend to like it for his sake.
Everyone is different, plus that gives you guys something to talk about right? You
could introduce him to the music you like and he could really end up liking it
YOU NEVER KNOW. If he starts saying you’re not his type cause you don’t have
certain facial features/a certain hair colour DON’T GO DYING YOUR HAIR, just
put him in the bin instead :-).
Situation
two:
So you’ve broken up—darn. I feel for you I
truly do, but you know what? shit happens. Listen to me right now—YOU ARE A
BEAUTIFUL YOUNG WOMAN. Yes you loved him, yes those were some good damn times
and yes you do feel like an empty shell, but girl things are gonna get better.
The first thing you need to realise is that he’s going to move on, but so are
you. This is the time where you begin to focus on yourself, boys aren’t the be
all and end all, as much as we like to believe they are.
You are young and have your whole life
ahead of you, take this unfortunate circumstance and turn it into something
good. Start to spend more time with your friends, work on something you’ve
always wanted to, watch a sad movie and just cry it all out, but DO NOT dwell on
the past. I’m a strong believer in ‘everything happens for a reason’. Take the
whole relationship as a learning curve, let this be something that you can use
to better yourself.
I can’t stress how important it is to love
yourself and to make decisions that make you happy. Please don’t let this one
horrible event ruin your future experiences, don’t be afraid to let yourself
move on. If you want to be happy then you have the right to be happy always
remember that. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes.
ALSO please don’t be the bitter ex, unless
he was a really shitty person who just doesn’t stop being shitty even after the
break up (then you kinda have the right to be bitter). You need to be positive
for things to be positive, don’t let someone define you. SO GURL ONCE AGAIN
TAKE YOUR ASS AWAY FROM HIS INSTAGRAM AND GO FOCUS ON YOU. You don’t need the
stress of seeing what he’s doing without you in his life weighing you down,
just unfriend him and move on. You deserve better and that’s exactly what you’re
gonna get.
I LOVE YOU ALL AND I WISH YOU LONG, HAPPY,
PROSPEROUS RELATIONSHIPS.
Have a wonderful day
Kimiz xoxo
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